I felt like I needed to be packing my knitting. I threw all of my camera equipment in the car and pulled up to the trusty, old Pondview Lodge when our knitting girls have our weekend retreat every October! Today was the day that my friend Emily was going to make her second start. You see, she lost her husband Chris a few years ago to cancer, a brave brave battle that required endurance and proved his AMAZING character. It was one of his parting wishes that his dear Emily and his baby-girl Erika would find a new companion and a new Godly Daddy for their life. And Em had found this in Scotty! :)
We all were so surprised when Em started talking about online dating and that she said that she found a special guy. It was at one of our winter get-togethers at the Nova where wine glasses and gut-wrenching laughs fill the night. When she started talking about him she just LIT UP, like a fifteen year old talking about their first crush (it was adorable)! :) But this was the kind of “light-up” that we hadn’t seen in Em for awhile…she had braved Chris’ cancer and the struggles of being a care taker for a loved one as they die. So seeing her light up about another man was a kind-of new thing for us…we supported her and we heard the stories of how they talked hours into the night (and sometimes morning) together, how they felt connected from their very first conversation and how Em was falling for him. Things started progressing, she started talking about marriage and moving to Washington (GAH!). All of us were scared and nervous. We didn’t want her to go. We put up our guards; we started telling ourselves that Scotty couldn’t be great as Em’s stories and that there was NO WAY that he could be good enough for Emily and Erika. We put up our guards.
But as Emily told more and more stories, we all kind of fell more and more in love with Scotty FOR her! :)
She told us about how he had five amazing kids. How he had just lost his wife Bev to cancer after moving back from living as an overseas missionary. How he had a heart for living overseas and serving people. How he was strong for her. How they could almost grieve together. How they understood one another’s hurts and struggles as widows and widdowers. How she saw that he was the companion that she could walk along side. The kind of companion that Chris had desired for her. And our hearts grew softer to the idea of her moving away and starting parts of her life again.
So, as I packed up my equipment, I knew that I was going to Emily’s second beginning! Her and Scotty were starting their journey as a new family. Six kids, two adults…going out to the west coast starting again! It was Emily’s second beginning. And it was Scotty’s second beginning. And it was was a beginning of their family ……. And it was one of the most beautiful redemption stories that I’ve ever seen! :)
Abby said it perfectly; she was talking about how we were all SO NOT thrilled with the idea of loosing a best friend (a sister, daughter and knitting companion) as they moved out to the coast. But the minute we heard more about Scotty, the minute that we MET Scotty, we knew it was right. We knew it was the path that God wanted for both of them…for their new family! We just knew! The kids just fit together SO perfectly as a new family. Emily and Scotty fit so perfectly. This day was carved out for them. And if we all were being honest, we would have wished that we didn’t HAVE to be in that room that night, because it would have meant that Chris and Bev wouldn’t be gone. That Em and Scotty wouldn’t have had to walk through such heart wrenching grief. But the (sometimes missed) beauty of any ending is that there is always a change for another beginning.
And this was the beginning of their second beginning!
**AND PS, I think it should be WONDERFULLY noted that Emily, MADE….KNITTED (did ya hear me, KNITTED) her own wedding dress! :) She knitted through her grief and began her wedding dress before she even met Scotty! It was quite an AMAZING site for us knitting girls to see her wear it knowing that she shed tears of grief when she began it which turned into tears of joy when she met Scotty! Pretty amazing, eh?! :)